05 September 2008

comfort zones

In my email correspondence with The Southern Gentleman, I tend to be the furthest thing from blunt with him when it comes to us. I prefer to use stories from my daily life to illustrate salient points. The Southern Gentleman, on the other hand, tends to deliver suggestive innuendos that are randomly generated from out of left field.

Our most recent email conversation is a prime example of our ying and yang.

My vanilla email reads: So happy you are home! Yikes! Even though my birthday is 2 months away, I am tripping out at the fact I will be 34 before I know it!

My secret underlying message: Knock, knock, hello? We are not getting any younger here?! By the way, come out here for my birthday.

The Southern Gentleman's reply: 34!! you are a young woman in the peak libido years of your life!

The Southern Gentleman's secret underlying message: 34!! you are a young woman in the peak libido years of your life!

Yes, our styles are clearly vastly different.

Typically, I would not touch his provocative reply because it is way outside my happy little comfort zone seeing as he and I are in this sort of relationship purgatory; each of us with one foot in the big relationship pool and the other foot planted on shaky, fear ground.

However, after the surprise and excitement subsided, I decided that I must travel outside my comfort zone and continue with the momentum he built. And in order to do that, I had to consult Coco as I knew she'd provide good inspiration. Coco did not disappoint (Thanks my dear!).

So this morning, I hit the reply button and sent just one sentence to The Southern Gentleman:

What good is it to be in my prime if the man who fans my flames is so far away?!

Now, we just wait and see....


kimba said...


Fiona said...

Now THAT is a reply ;) But hey I thought my 40s were my peak *L* Damn shame of it is, there wasn't anyone around to fan MY flames!!!

I hope he gets the very strong hint...hell that's no hint, it's a request *L*....and that your 34th year (oh gosh such youth!!) is filled with memorable moments :)